These tips can help you overcome any sense of denial about a loved one’s chronic health condition and find acceptance and peace.
In Isaac Asimov’s opinion, “The easiest way to solve a problem is to deny it exists.” It’s a common sentiment for a number of family caregivers when their loved one is diagnosed with a chronic health condition, such as dementia. And even though this can generate some measure of comfort in thinking that life can go on as it always has if only we refuse to accept this new reality, the truth of course, is the fact that acceptance is a must to obtaining necessary support.
It is understandable for a family member to wish to accomplish everything possible independently to deliver the care a loved one needs. However, often in the crux of denial are thoughts of guilt, helplessness, and in some cases incompetence in the ability to “fix things.” And there are important advantages to be gained—both for the person in your care and yourself—by dealing with the situation head-on, including the chance to enjoy time together, and to discover effective techniques to manage any obstacles being faced now or once the condition progresses.
AARP shares some practical factors to consider for families struggling to acknowledge a senior loved one’s diagnosis:
- It’s possible to be TOO positive. Keeping up a sunny disposition is very useful, but may actually be dangerous if not tempered with a dose of reality. Frequently, individuals with a chronic disease find relief in speaking freely and honestly about exactly what they are facing, and acceptance is vital to offering opportunities for such discussions.
- Acceptance is certainly not giving up. Instead, acknowledging the person’s condition opens the door to learning effective strategies to handle the disease, and to locating the supportive services that will allow for the greatest possible quality of life.
- Treasure the time you have together with your family member. Letting go of denial helps you change your focus to establishing a new normal. There is something liberating about removing the elephant in the room, making it possible for an unencumbered closeness with the person you love.
- Allow others to help. Going through a difficult diagnosis in a loved one can be a formidable undertaking, and it’s essential for family caregivers to be sure plenty of time is available on a consistent, regular basis for self-care. Accept any help provided by family, friends, your religious organization, etc., or get in touch with an established home care agency like Advanced Home Health Care. Understand that you can best care for your loved one when you’re in excellent health, physically and emotionally.
Finding a trusted care partner is key. Advanced Home Health Care can help with some of the more mundane components of care, so you can spend higher quality time with the senior you love. Reach out to us at 800.791.7785 for an in-home consultation to find out more about our in-home care services in Burlington, Keokuk, Fort Madison, and the surrounding areas.
